On Dec. 21, 2003, at 2:05 a.m., my husband died suddenly of an aneurysm. Needless to say, his passing was devastating. My husband and I had known each other since 9th grade. However, we didn’t start dating until we were in our mid-20s. He was my best friend, my lover, my prayer partner, and my confidant. As in any marriage, we had our share of struggles, but through it all we grew stronger in love and faith.
After his passing, I encountered many couples that appeared to take each other for granted in their relationships. I witnessed disrespect, lack of trust, resentment, jealousy, unforgiveness, anger, unfaithfulness. As I prayed for these relationships, God ministered to me and gave me words of wisdom to help heal and restore many marriages.
I titled this article “It’s the Small Things” because we take so much for granted… A gentle touch in the middle of the night. The calls and texts in the middle of the afternoon to find out how your day is going. Having someone to reach an item on the top shelf for you. Having your spouse go to the grocery store to get that one ingredient you need to finish a meal. Someone to make sure your car is running safely. I could go on and on but my point is this: don’t take the small things for granted.
God allowed me to find love once again. Yes, I fell in love with an amazing man who suddenly passed away on Aug. 23, 2020. He filled a void in my life. He brought me so much joy and helped me experience happiness once more.
My prayer for couples is that they learn to honor and respect each other. Believe and speak well of each other. Be determined to walk out your life with God together because today is a given, but tomorrow is not promised. Live each day as if it may be the last.